If you have a new guy in your life and you are in the early stages of courtship, there is a good chance that you will text him and he will text you. Flirty text messages are fun, but if you’re not careful, you can unknowingly put a huge damper on your attraction to him.
I’m going to share a story with you here as an example of how this can happen. The names have been changed, of course. Bill gets to Cindy. They hit each other and exchanged phone numbers. They exchange a few text messages, hang out a few times, and all is well. Cindy sees this because he is inside of her. She starts randomly texting him at random times. She texts him good morning or good night, she texts him that she misses him. She texts him and asks him questions like when she will see him again. She even texts him about what she may be up to at any time of the day.
Cindy wants Bill to know that she is interested in him, she wants him to know that she likes him. She thinks that this will make him like her more. Mistaken. Bill and I meet up and he tells me that Cindy is great, but he doesn’t have feelings for her. What happened? Cindy killed the attraction by taking the chase away from Bill. Bill already knows she’s interested in him, so why work? When texting guys, it’s never a good idea to be too available or talkative. Boys love mystery. If you overshare when you text a guy you like, you kill the mystery that kills the attraction for him.
Even if Bill texts her that he misses her or wants to see her, she still has to hold back. At first, a boy lives in the moment. The beginning is when you set the hook and build that attraction that leads to attachment to it. If you’re giving it your all too fast, he’ll get bored and eventually fade away. When texting a guy, hold back, be mysterious. Don’t fall into the girlfriend behavior trap before he has given you that title.
When you text him too often, offer him too much, he sees you as if you’re waving a pick me, pick me sign. Not attractive. He should be wondering if you’re going to choose him instead. This builds the attraction, this gives you something to work for. Don’t underestimate the power of attraction and how texting a guy can be a huge factor in this.
