Why are some people born naturally flirtatious and others couldn’t charm the back of a bus if their lives depended on it?

The power of flirting goes beyond attracting the opposite sex. Master the art of flirting and you will also become a friend magnet and be able to use your skills to influence business relationships.

“You either have it or you don’t!” is often what you will hear men say when they brag about their conquests. Women, on the other hand, are more shy when talking about a man they have met. In order not to appear smug, she often tells her friends “Oooh, I don’t think he likes it, what do you guys think?” However, if she successfully flirts, she will think in the same way as a man: “Yes, it was like putty in my hands!”.

Flirting is an art that requires trust without being OTT. A successful flirt knows how to strike the perfect balance; Too much and there’s a real danger of being labeled “slobbery” (if you’re a man) and “cico” (if you’re a woman).

If flirting doesn’t come naturally to you, you can learn to flirt by building your confidence, believing in yourself, and interacting with other people.

Here are some basic flirting tips that can be practiced at work and/or in a social scene.

  1. Have fun!

    First and foremost, flirting is fun! Whether you’re the flirt or the flirt, you make both parties smile (both on the inside and out!). Do not take it seriously; be playful, be joyful, be contagious!

  2. ooze confidence

    The best flirts have a positive outlook on life and are happy with themselves. To flirt successfully you need to feel good about yourself before you can pass on this “feel good” factor to the opposite sex. By displaying a positive and optimistic outlook on life, you will connect with the right people for you.

  3. make the first move

    Don’t wait for someone to approach you. If you have your eye on someone from work, wait until they go to the kitchen, then head straight for the coffee machine. The same is true at a bar, wait for them to go to the bar then squeeze next to them. Start with a simple “Hello” and go from there. What can you lose?

  4. Give a compliment and get a smile!

    A genuine compliment costs nothing, and yet it can make someone feel so special. If someone looks great, tell them! If someone has accomplished something to be proud of, tell them! Once you start making someone feel good about themselves, they are more likely to want to spend more time with you. And if someone compliments you, be proud of the compliment and say “Thank you”!

  5. Eye contact

    Eye contact is one of our most powerful communication mechanisms. Most people have no problem making eye contact with someone they don’t find attractive, but they become uncomfortable around people they are attracted to. If you tend to look away from people you like, practice making eye contact with people on the way to work, a quick glance, and then look away. This is a good way to increase your confidence. Don’t stare though, this will make people uncomfortable!

  6. tone of your voice

    Learn to vary the pitch, pitch, and speed of your voice. A richly toned voice sounds much more interesting than a boring note!

  7. Hear

    A good flirt has the ability to make people open up and talk about themselves. Pay attention when someone is talking to you and ask questions to show that you are interested. The best questions are the ones that will make someone remember a positive experience about themselves.

  8. Move your body!

    There are many positive body language cues: prolonged eye contact, smiling broadly, touching someone, tilting head to one side, running fingers through hair, undivided attention, but if you really want to let loose and openly flirt, dance! Dancing is a great form of self-expression that allows you to interact with someone and connect.

  9. Smile smile smile!

    Make your smile contagious! The more you smile, the more people will want to meet you and be around you!

  10. Do not be rude! Flirting does not mean being sexually explicit! It’s also not meant to be offensive if someone rejects your advances. If you’ve been flirting with someone and you’re not getting positive feedback, don’t get discouraged or take it personally, move on to the next person! You may want to consider a different approach if you get a lot of rejections.
  11. Send an email Emails are a great way to communicate with someone if you’re too shy to approach them face-to-face. Whether it’s someone you’re interested in at work or you want to try internet dating, email and instant messaging allow you to flirt without blushing or being speechless. However, be careful not to get intimate online too quickly; It’s easy to paint an optimistic picture of the person behind the monitor, but until you meet them, you don’t really know them. My message here is to meet someone online before you set up a date, but don’t fall in love before you meet them! Reality could burst the bubble!