Men aren’t the only ones who are afraid to settle down, women are afraid to settle down too and for the same reasons as men. Contrary to popular opinion, women aren’t necessarily afraid of settling down because of some past pain that some doggy man has poured out on them. And the same goes for men. There are many women who do not want to give up their single life and settle down with a man. Women hold on to their singleness as tightly as men hold on to their singleness. Of course, there are the men and women who happily marry and live at home with pleasure. OK, we’re not talking about those. Although happy for them. There are women who love to spend their money however they please without having to think of two people when they could be thinking of number one. These women don’t have to be partying, drinking, going crazy, and hooking up with the hot, hot guy from the bar. Although that can also be fun. (So I’ve heard). :))
There are women who like their freedom and are in no hurry to run down the hall in a fuss in a white dress with an annoying bouquet in their hands. That sounds so fairytale princess. Just the thought of settling down will cause some women to break out in hives, have an asthma attack, and then black out. That’s not to say there aren’t great men who would make fantastic husbands. Some women are simply not interested in settling down with one person for the rest of their natural lives.
Now, while part of that fear might come from growing up with parents who didn’t love each other, part of that fear might come from simply not wanting to stop being single. Maybe that woman has lived her life on her own terms and she’s gotten used to it that she doesn’t really see the need to give up her single life when she’s been extremely successful and she’s been happy living life. her own life. Now there is another reason. If that woman is a strong woman, there are men who are put off by strong women. They may feel intimidated by that woman and will look for a woman who is less intimidating. NEXT! That’s what I say if a man is intimidated by me and can’t approach me as a mature, grown man. Why would I want a man who can’t stand up to me, but he folds or runs every time? Why would she want a man who wants his ego stroked just so he can feel like the man? Nor will I play the role of a damsel in distress to be more accommodating and submissive with a man.
There are so many women who have held their own house and don’t have time to be the little woman to attract a man or make a man feel good. A strong woman needs a strong man who can stand by her as her counterpart. This is not talking about a physically strong man, although having a man muscular enough to pick up a woman and carry her around is very sexy and macho. If you like that kind of man like me. Anyway, keep going. A woman doesn’t need a man who doesn’t know himself and plays games, nor does a woman need a man who bows down when trouble arises. That’s why some women are afraid to settle down. Okay, that’s why there’s a get-to-know-you period and if a guy isn’t up to it, that woman will just move on with her life.
There are men who can’t handle half of what some women went through, so they can’t live up to a woman like that. There are also men who just want women to be for them. So when women see those examples, it’s enough to create fear to settle in them. She does not want to become a man’s mother, wife, lover and doctor. A strong woman needs a strong man who can stand on his own and who can stand by her as a partner, confidant, and rock of support. Such a woman has no problem treating that man like a king because he has already shown her that he will treat her and consider her as the queen that she is.
A strong woman, a Queen, has no problem defending her King, a man who will show by his actions, not his words, that he can stand by her and be her complete other half. A strong woman does not need a man to protect her. She can protect herself from seeking out hers Sir Gallahad of the Knights of the Round Table. Such a woman needs a man who will be on her side and on her team just as she will be for him. This is why it can be difficult for women to want to settle down. From what she has seen around her, it may be hard to believe such a man exists, but she does. There are so many relationships that are working because both individuals fought for what they wanted and worked to become complete in themselves so that they would be attracted to their other half, who is also complete in themselves. They then come together in a healthy, loving, and spiritually growing relationship.
If as a woman you don’t want to settle down just because you love being single, then that’s fine. Gone are the days when a single woman was seen as an outcast by the townspeople because she was not married and did not have children, and gone are the days when a single woman was seen as a vulture that would go after married men. of the town village. Single women are keeping it for themselves and living a fabulous life. However, if you are afraid to settle down because you don’t believe there are mature men, then you are doing yourself a great disservice. If you really want to settle down, build a marriage, and then get married, start working on becoming the kind of woman you would marry. If you wouldn’t marry you, why would you expect a man to want to marry you?
If you are not working on yourself, healing your past hurts, and growing, then you will never be ready for a healthy, mature marriage. Because marriage is more than being married. Either person can get married, however it takes two mature, adult people who are working to grow up to come together and have a marriage. A marriage is where you build a deeper intimacy with each other. It’s not where you go to grow yourself. You do that before you get married. When you have a marriage, then comes the marriage. Of course, not everyone does it that way and some have managed to build a marriage through hard work, love and a determination to stay together.
Women, when you begin to become the woman you want to be, then you are preparing to welcome someone else into your life. She has made a conscious decision to start working and growing. Take time to take stock of your life and see where you can start to grow the most. You may never get over the fear of settling down, however if you really want to get married the more you date or remain open to a strong man who is also your equal coming into your life, that fear will slowly fade away and a beautiful friendship, love and marriage will begin to materialize between two people who sincerely and truly love each other.
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