Many men and women who are in a asexual marriage they are surprised when their spouse tells them they want a divorce. They just didn’t see it coming. They couldn’t see the warning signs and, in fact, had no real interest in looking for them … until now.
Then there are the spouses who dare not go down the path of divorce, but find comfort and comfort in the arms of another man or woman. These affairs often continue as “secret lives” hidden behind the masquerade of a happy family before outsiders.
I often refer to these couples as “Wake me up when I’m done” spouses because it is too painful for those involved in affairs to think about all the “what ifs” involved in this complicated situation.
Finally, the last group of spouses are the ones who argue, then reconcile, argue, and then reconcile again until both are worn down to the point of apathy.
Marriage problems can be predicted when you understand the shocking formula that can predict your divorce, even a year in advance, regardless of which of the three phases you may fall into.
The ability to do this requires that you have my free “HOT and NOT” marriage drawings that you can download from my “Stop your divorce” website. Just because they are pictures does not mean they should be taken lightly. They allow you to take a look at your marriage and predict divorce in advance.
Since this is a 50% divorce rate culture, you can use this prediction tool as a wake-up call to avoid becoming just another statistic.
The first phase couples experience is the romantic stage of the relationship. If you have downloaded the drawing, you will see that I mean the “HOT drawing”.
At these four levels, you can see exactly what attracts a man to a woman and how much work, time, and effort you put into attracting the target man.
In order not to be left behind, you will see that the man in question is also putting 100% of his effort into attracting the woman.
As you watch these two scenarios that set the stage to “get serious,” you are likely to feel a warm feeling inside. It’s kind of “happily ever after.” We all want people to find love and happiness like in the movies. We all want it for ourselves too.
But this drawing is meant for more than just giving us happy feelings. What it contains is actually the formula to be happy and fulfilled throughout your life in marriage.
On the left side of the image is what a man needs to know to make sure the woman he marries continues to love him. On the right side of this image is what a woman must do to keep her man loyal and faithful.
You will see that women want their men to be a responsible wage earner, maintain a presentable appearance, protect you from hostile threats in any form, and continue to sacrifice their time, energy, and money on your behalf.
You would think this would be very easy since he did this early in the relationship, but over time the couples end the courtship and revert to their old behaviors to the point where they resent each other, which eventually leads to a problem. . asexual marriage.
Now men, on the other hand, want their women to maintain their appearance as well. A man wants his wife to make him feel important no matter what he does or does not do. He wants his wife to tell him about all the things he does well and to accept him for who he is: quirks and all.
So there you have it. Do you want a great marriage and a great life?
Follow this plan and don’t deviate from it. This is what makes men and women “hot” for each other.
It is so simple, yet so commonly overlooked by couples.
But most couples don’t stay “hot” for long. Instead, what they do is go the “easy route” (not easy at all!) And do what one million five hundred thousand couples do each year: divorce.
This brings us to the second drawing in the illustration that shows the destructive ways couples tear apart their marriage … without even knowing it!
So what are they doing so wrong?
Simple. They just do the OPPOSITE of what they did to create it. In the drawing, images 1, 2, 3, and 4 in the second drawing are what predicts a divorce.
Now the question is; How can you predict when divorce will occur in your marriage? An asexual marriage is a pretty good indicator of some serious problems in your marriage, but there is another easy answer.
Take these photos to the person you married and ask them to rate the photos 10 to 1.
If you are a man, take both photos to your wife and tell her “Honey, I need you to give me a score based on these images, where 10 is “This is exactly what is happening” and 1 is “This is not happening at all.”
If you are on the way to a divorce, it is possible that when you give her the “HOT page”, she will rate you 2 and 3. If this is the case, you will most likely find that on the “NO” page, she rates you with 9 and 10.
If this is the case, consider it a wake-up call that you need to do something RIGHT NOW about your asexual marriage before it’s too late.
If your wife actually gave you these scores, you could safely predict that a divorce is in your future as little as a month or even up to 12 months if you do absolutely nothing different than what you are doing now.
What I have just presented for men in the scoring process applies equally to women. If you bring these pictures to your husband and find high scores on the “No Page” and low scores on the “Hot Page,” you know you’re in trouble.
Does this really work?
The reason this works so well is because these simple pictures eliminate any need to talk about your problems, the story, what went wrong, and who did what to whom. All that aside, just ask your spouse for scores.
And when you do, make sure you are NOT sitting in the same room and waiting. Let them do it in private. For most couples, this little scoring exercise is a real rude awakening.
It forces you to stop living with wool over your eyes and communication between the two of you begins. Without communication, the two of them continue as normal and over time they begin to feel indifferent to each other and their marriage.
Now here are some quick tips to help you with this exercise …
Tip No. 1: If you have received low scores, do not react negatively. Make sure you act like a student who has been given low grades in the middle of the semester. Now is the time to meet with your “teacher” and find out how to correct the problem.
Tip No. 2: With this “good student” analogy in mind, it’s your job to figure out how to turn a potentially bad “semester” around by asking your spouse specific questions … starting with the “HOT picture.”
Here is an example of a specific question you might ask your spouse. “Honey, tell me how I showed you that I was a responsible wage earner and good with money when we first dated.”
Another example. “Honey, how do you think I took care of my appearance when we were dating and you were so interested in me?” Y, “Honey, how good did I make you feel that I would protect you and defend you to make you feel safe when we were dating?” If you want help with the last question, “Honey, how did I sacrifice my time, energy, and money for you when we were dating?”
Tip No. 3: The answers you get will give you an idea of what you did well at any given time. With this positive illustration still ringing in your ears, ask about the “NO picture”, but this time, don’t ask specific questions about those negative behaviors. Instead, ask how you can do specific things to get back on the “HOT picture”.
Here’s another tip: Thinking about problems will only create more problems in your marriage. This is one of the reasons marriage counseling has such appalling success rates – they focus on problems.
Instead, focus on who you are. The more you talk about those “HOT photos”, the more satisfying your marriage will become.
Tip No. 4: Each of you should take your turn in this exercise. If your asexual marriage is on the brink of divorce and the “picture is NOT” an accurate description of your marriage, consider having a neutral person lead the two of you through this exercise.
Tip No. 5: Once you have your “HOT scores” and the solutions, or your spouse’s responses on how to get back to that positive point in your marriage, schedule a date and do something as close to what you used to do when you were really happy with each other. with the other.
If you want to go the extra mile, buy the book “10 Great Dates” from Amazon.com. Each date teaches you something about rekindling romance in your marriage. The book includes many useful details that will teach you much more than what you currently know about how to get married.
Get this right and you will soon be looking at your asexual marriage as a thing of the past, as their mutual resentment is replaced by those “warm and fuzzy feelings” from when they were dating.
