The best way to get your ex back, believe it or not, may be to pretend you don’t care. The underlying reason this works so well is that it makes your ex wonder why you don’t care when before you were constantly calling him and begging for a second chance.
I’m sure you’ve seen this theory work in other areas of your life. When you head to a dealership to buy a new car, it’s normal to prepare for battle, right? You play it cool, pretend you could live without the car, even walk away when the salesman quotes you a ridiculous price. You know those are the strategies to get the best deal.
If you ran up to the dealer and told him how much money you absolutely need to get that new car and that you would do anything to get it home right away, you know what would happen? You’d pay through the nose for that car. The vendor would have a picnic with you and be smiling for a month. The seller will play on your obvious and urgent desire to have that car and he will squeeze everything you are worth.
The same concept applies regarding the best way to get your ex back. If it’s so obvious that you’re still interested, he or she has nothing to lose by keeping you in the background. They know that if something better doesn’t come up, you’ll still be there, eager for a second chance.
If you suddenly weren’t as anxious and weren’t calling or trying desperately to get their attention, they’ll start trying to figure out why. It is part of human nature to doubt ourselves when someone we thought was interested in us begins to show signs that he is no longer interested. It gets personal. I thought they really liked it? I thought you were waiting for me? Could they have found someone new?
Unfortunately, some people break up with their girlfriend or boyfriend just to test the relationship. They get a boost to their own ego, and a twisted feeling of confirmation, when they know you’re bringing them down a lot by missing them.
To exercise the best way to get your ex back, stop calling them and stop trying to reach them. Start hanging out with your friends again and doing things that you know your ex will listen to. While you wait for your ex to search for information on why she no longer seems interested, study basic relationship skills. Find and develop the skills that will help you build a happier, healthier relationship with your ex.
