One of the tools to get a woman into bed is to give her a “statement of intent.” This is like a prepare statement. You prepare her for the escalation of things on a sexual level. That way, she already knows what you’re going to try later.
Statements of intent work because they give you no objection at this point. It’s not like saying “I’m about to kiss you” and then kissing her. The idea is to passively set the frame by saying you’re going to escalate things and it’s up to her if that’s okay or not.
Here are some good statements of intent:
“You’re so sexy”.
“I know it’s a little early, but you’re so hot.”
“I know I shouldn’t say this, but I am totally picturing kissing you right now.”
“I’m super into you. Sorry if that’s inappropriate, but I just blurted it out.”
These are things that tell you exactly about your intentions. She knows what you’re going to do and she won’t be surprised when you do it. She has a lot of time to think about it and accept it before it happens. She knows you don’t want her as a friend, shopping buddy, clubbing buddy, or shoulder to cry on. It is clear that she loves her like a man loves a woman.
When doing this, it is important to tell her that she is hot, that you like her, that you want to get in her pants, that you want to kiss her, that you are attracted to her, etc. It’s good to follow up with something like “Sorry, I know it’s early” or “It’s inappropriate.” This makes it look like you’re not doing it intentionally; it just showed up. That will dispel any doubts you have about it.
It’s also good to add a bit of humor. You don’t want to be a total clown because you want her to know you really mean it, but you can use some of that fuzzy humor afterwards, like “Sorry I’m such a jerk.” Or do some kind of non-sequitur to soften the blow and distract her. The point is that it is a clear statement of intent, but also that it is not threatening.
If you can handle the statement of intent early on, you’ll set the stage for what comes next. This is really important in how to get women into bed because it makes her already think about it and accept it before the time comes.
