I once had a three-year relationship with a man where we had sex and spent every day together. After about six months of our casual relationship, I wanted to know if our relationship was serious or not. But not once did he ask the question: Would you be my girlfriend? So I asked him if we should be. He was quiet, thought about it a bit, asked me some questions, and said I was fine. Let’s say the title of our relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. I imagined feeling ecstatic. But somehow, the event ended up feeling very empty and empty. In a way, I felt like I had convinced him to be my boyfriend, but it didn’t feel right.
I think I was lucky in that relationship. The man I was dating felt strong enough for me that I decided to put a title to our casual relationship and turn it into a serious one. But for many other women, they strike up a casual relationship, and even after years of seeing the same man exclusively, he has managed to convince her that ‘relationship titles are not important’.
Later, I also experienced this with another man whom I seriously saw as the father of my future children. And I loved him so much, I grew so fond of him, that after two years, when he said, ‘Marriage is just a piece of paper. It doesn’t guarantee anything ‘,’ I see you every day, isn’t that enough? ‘,’ Don’t you know that I love you? ‘,’ Why do you need me to show you my love with a piece of paper? ‘, etc. I convinced myself that maybe he was right. Maybe it wasn’t important. And if she really loved him, she wouldn’t force him to make a decision that he didn’t want to make right now. So I waited. In the end, he broke my heart and left me because he fell in love with another girl.
What I want to point out here is that you have the right to want what you want. You don’t need any other reason to want what you want, except that you ‘want it’. If you are in a relationship with a man who really loves you the way you want to be loved, he will do everything he can to make you happy. If you’re serious about your relationship, you’ll want to give your relationship a clear title. He will want you to be out of reach of other men. He will be the one desperate to make you his.
So if you calmly let the man you’re dating right now know that having a relationship title is important to you, and that you can’t have a relationship with him without him, and he’s still not budging, it’s time. to choose. do the best for yourself and go.
Men will give you valid reasons for not wanting to commit to a relationship just yet. But don’t you see that there will always be reasons for and against any decision? And you want him to choose to be with you no matter what, right? You deserve to be appreciated, loved and adored by the man you love. Give yourself that gift and protect your heart, as a man who truly loves you would. I found my prince. When it goes to?
