If you’re a lesbian and have just come out, you’ll find that dating is a whole new experience than you may be used to with men. One of the differences is in reading the signs that a woman is interested in you. This is important because, unlike straight dating, you or the other woman will be responsible for starting the date. No more waiting for the guy to take the lead! Like everything in life, this has its good points and its bad points. For one, you don’t have to sweat waiting to see if he asks you out. On the other hand, you will experience all the anxiety and fear of rejection that men have traditionally had to endure.

Now, back to the topic of this article. You may think that she knows everything there is to know about female attraction, since she is a woman. Well maybe, but in our society you’ve only been conditioned to interact with men on this level, not women. So determining if a woman is interested in you can be more difficult than you think. For one thing, men tend to be more open. On the other hand, if you are meeting a woman in a social context who is straight (in other words, NOT at a gay bar or online dating site), you may not know if she is interested in you as a friend. heterosexual or as a lesbian lover. interest. Since 98% of the population is straight, guess what the odds are? Still, it happens and you have to be able to figure it out! Here are some signs:

  • Frequency of Contact: After your initial meeting, has this woman initiated contact with you? If you’ve seen her more than once, does she call you often to talk? Has she asked to see you again? In general, if a woman is interested in you, she will want to contact you and see you as much as possible!
  • Mood: When you see this woman, what is her mood like? Do you smile a lot or even get dizzy? Is she always she is she happier to see you her? Does she give you a big hug? Conversely, if she can’t meet with her, does she seem too disappointed? She measures these mood reactions with those of friends she has had in the past. In other words, try to determine if her reactions seem more extreme than typical.
  • Alone or in a crowd? Does this woman prefer to see you with other friends or alone? A woman who is interested in you romantically will usually want to see you alone, rather than invite you to a party or “girls’ night out.”
  • Listen carefully to what she says. Does she tell you that she likes you or that she really enjoys spending time with you? Does she express that time goes by so fast when she’s with you? If your friend doesn’t want your time together to end and regrets saying goodbye, that’s a sign! Does she offer to go with you when you have alternate plans, such as “Oh, I have to do some shopping too. I’ll go with you.” What you are hearing is behavior that is out of the norm.
  • Jealousy. Although this is a negative emotion, it is also a sign that a woman is attracted to you. Does he seem annoyed when you have other obligations or want to spend time with another friend? Does she feel slighted by your other obligations? It’s important to note here that she may be jealous of her time away from her, rather than the actual person or obligation she is serving.

One last word. A woman who is attracted to you may never have experienced these feelings before. She may be confused and afraid of these feelings. She even she may be involved in a heterosexual or married relationship. Often these feelings occur as a relationship progresses from acquaintance to “best friend.” With most women, feelings of attraction end with “best friend,” but lesbians will continue to bond beyond that point in romantic love.